Marriage Conference

We spent Friday night and Saturday morning focusing on our marriage at a "Rock Your Marriage" conference. I wanted to write down some of my notes so I can refer back to them.

Here are my highlights and what I needed to hear most:

"But at the beginning of creation God made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate." Mark 10:6

• God gave me my husband as a gift. A. Gift. I need to trust The Giver!


• We really need to trust God and His Word and want the best for our spouse. We want them to be all that God created them to be.


• God loves us in spite of... when we are at our worst.


• Honor and celebrate our differences.


• The Gift of Grace~ Wipe the slate clean.


• The concept of forgiving and forgetting. We don't want to forget that we have been forgiven. God views us as if we have never sinned.


• You can be married, yet living a divorce if you act as roommates.


• Don't be lazy.


• How do we inflate/deflate and love/respect our spouses? How do I feel loved? How do you feel respected? Ask those questions.


• Am I a "feeler" or "thinker"? Is it about having feelings hurt or a fairness kind of issue? Do I need to get over it or get into it? From heart to head or head to heart? Think about it. Walk away to process.


• Satan will do all he can to make me think my spouse is the enemy. He smiles when he knows he has won. We've lost if we become roommates or get divorced. We must feel safe in our relationship. Our goal should be that we want our spouse to be who God intended them to be and we don't want to settle.

"The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly." John 10:10

• The heritage that you receive is not as important as the legacy that you leave. We need to fight for our future and receive our identity in Christ. We must be intentional about our legacy and what we are passing on. What do I need to accept and reject (abandon) from my past?


• What is a trophy and what is trash? I need to take an honest look at what I want to continue to pass on. Hunt it down. What am I hiding? What sin is in my camp? The things I do not want to be passed on need to... Stop. Here!


• We need to get in community with others who are willing to speak truth into our marriage and support us.


• Our most important relationship is the one between ourselves and God. The second most important is the one between me and my husband.


• Pray together.

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