12.05.2007
My friend
I have this friend...(wink). Her daughter had a relationship with a guy that ended over a year ago. I should mention that this guy broke her daughter's heart. For some reason whenever her daughter seems to start moving ahead and getting over him, the guy makes a reason to communicate with her. He is clearly over her and is even dating another girl. So, why would he do this to her? He gives her crumbs and immediately her mind starts going a million miles an hour trying to analyze the situation. My friend gets so frustrated with this boy. She wishes he would just leave her daughter alone. She knows, all she can do is give her daughter to God and pray for healing. Will you please pray for my friend's daughter? She wants to get over him, she really does. And please pray for my friend who needs wisdom to guide her and point her straight to the only one who can heal her heart and bring her someone who will treat her like a queen!
My friend thanks you from the bottom of her heart!
xoxo
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18 comments:
That's a tough situation. Frustrating too. I'll pray for your friend (wink) and her daughter.
BTW, your videos are showing up on my end??
Hugs!
Kat
Don't you hate to see your friend's daughter having to deal with that when you know she deserves so much more.She and your friend's sister are in my prayers this evening. I love you, dear friend. Keep strong in Him, annie
PS Doesn't that song just speak to you? I love it! We sing it in church and it always is timely!
I wonder what him motivation is - maybe still cares although causing so much stress.Only One knows.
I'll pray for your "friend" (wink). For both the friend and daughter that must be frustrating. Some boys are just stupid! :)
Mean boys stink. If I could say one thing to your "friends" daughter it would be this...WAIT FOR SOMEONE WHO IS CRAZY ABOUT YOU...it is so worth the wait...someone who adores you would not play mind games with you!
I hope your friend has a good day!
Praying for your daughter! My daughter went through this a year and half ago. As hard as it was for her it was just as hard for her parents to watch her deal with a broken heart! It was a blessing when this young man moved to another State and communication was completely cut off.
FYI...the videos are showing again tonight? Yeah! Not sure what happened last night, but before I could call my son, I checked and everything's back to normal tonight. Weird. I don't understand these computers sometimes. Just wanted you to know.
Hugs!
UGH- not liking that boy! :) I will be praying for your friend, that God help her to guard her heart until He brings the most incredible man to her. Love you girl!
it sounds like the boy is into some serious game and that when she starts to move on he tries to move in because he wants to have his cake and eat it to. dude doesn't like the rejection he feels when she moves on. sounds like a playa! i remember this well! I will pray for sure!
Your friend's daughter thanks everyone for the advice and prayers :)
Ang,
Ok so I had something very similar happen to me when I was in college. I dated a guy that was not good for me. I finally ended the relationship and he constantly called me.
Even though he would be dating other people he would still call and tell me how wonderful I was and how he was probably making a mistake with this other girl.
He did this for YEARS!! Looking back he was just wanting a "safety net" I was that net.
See if things did not work out with the girl he was with he was hoping he could come back to me. I only let him "come back" once.
It was when I had started to date someone else (a really great guy) and we got serious that the other guy came begging for me back (it scared him to think he had lost that safety net) I dated him again and it of course did not work out.
After that I wised up and realized that guy was not the one and I needed to let it go. I met my hubby a little while later and have been happily married since!!
BOTTOM LINE: anyone who does not respect your feelings does not respect you!!!!
I hope this helps your friend and her daughter :)
Love ya,
Kim
I agree with Kim about the guy wanting a safety net. He wants to string her along in case he gets lonely down the road. I think we have probably all been someone's safety net and we have likely all strung someone along as our own. It really stinks.
Maybe he thinks your friend's daughter would be someone nice to marry one day after he's had his fun with lots of other girls who are not "wife material." (My dad explained this phenomenon to me when I was younger.) I had a boy like that in my life. One day (5 years after we actually dated) he was ready for me, but I had given my heart to God and I knew His vision for my future husband looked nothing like this guy. The man he brought me was more perfect for me than I could have ever asked for or imagined.
I once watched Greg Behrendt talk about his book "He's Just Not That Into You" on Oprah. Bottom line - if he won't commit, he's just not that into you. It was kind of harsh, but I wished so much I'd heard the hard truth a few times in my single years. It would have saved me some time and self-respect. I'm thankful that we have a God who can give us back our dignity and self-respect no matter how long we've let someone take it from us.
Sorry it has taken me so long to get over here...I've just been crazy busy!!
Anyway, I don't have much business giving any advice to your friend! ;) I've actually never dated anyone. But, from the advice that I've been given, I know that it is so worth the wait! I know that HE can do and give more than we can imagine, and I absolutely HAVE to cling to that. As much as I want to take things into my own hands, I know that I don't want to because I want HIS man for my life.
I too have read "He's just not that into you" Tell her to wait for the man who is absolutely head over heals in love with her and pursues her with a Godly love!
Know that I am praying for your friends daughter! ;) I'll pray that she 'get's it!' and that that dumb boy will leave her alone. I can only imagine how hard that makes waiting!
Much love,
Lindsee
Any updates?
Angie- I will keep both your friend (wink) and her daughter in my prayers. However, I did feel compelled to comment from personal experience on this one. I was in a position like the daughter at one time (not long ago) in my life. I think at points in our life God likes us to use the gift of Free Will that he gives us. My gift of free will allows me to make decisions after I've also laid it down to Him for guidance. I would recommend the daughter tell this guy that she appreciates his calls and wishes him well and to please not call anymore and move on. That's what is really necessary in this case. He seems a bit like a player. He wants to "keep her on the string" just in case. She needs to move on and so does he, though I can tell he doesn't really want to...totally. She would be wise to set herself free from his game. And remember, I am speaking from experience.
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